Thursday, July 12, 2012

How to Ask Someone On a Date

First off, you'll notice that this post is entitled "How to Ask Someone On a Date".  Not "How to Ask a Girl On a Date".  There is a difference.  In one of my previous posts, I mentioned that it is completely alright for a girl to ask a guy on a date.  I still advocate that.  Nothing has changed.

And, now that we've gotten that out of the way, we can move on to the post.


Asking a person on a date shouldn't really be that hard of a concept to understand, but some people just can't seem to get it right.  You don't have to go all out and leave a riddle on the person's doorstep like people do for high school dances.  There is a time and a place for that.  That time and that place is in high school at a high school dance.

Of course, you can't just sit around the other extreme either where you don't make any effort at all.  This means no texting

I advise that you stick around the middle of those two extremes.  Either ask the person on a date while you are talking face to face or just give them a call.  Phones do still work for more than texting.

All you have to do is say something to the effect of, "Hey, I've been wanting to see [insert name of romantic comedy here] for awhile.  Do you want to be my date?"  It's that simple.

This doesn't have to be a 20 minute conversation.  You can have it last for just a few minutes.  Plan the basics (what day, about what time, etc.) and leave it at that.  You don't have to plan everything out over the phone right then (unless the date is going to be in 5 minutes, in which case, shame on you for taking so long to ask someone), just plan the basics and THEN you can text back and forth to work out the details.

Asking someone on a date shouldn't be that hard to do, but some people still mess up.  Make sure that you aren't one of those people.


Tellin' it how it is,
The Unobtrusive One